From the New York Times: “It used to be called illegitimacy. Now it is the new normal. After steadily rising for five decades, the share of children born to unmarried women has crossed a threshold: more than half of births to American women under 30 occur outside marriage. “ The article has been getting a good deal of attention, and is in fact worth reading as it probes more thoroughly into the subject than one would expect from a short piece in this paper. An even shorter companion piece is also worth reading. The articles acknowledge the contribution of the welfare state to illegitimacy, as well as declining social stigma and the sexual revolution. Economic conditions are also considered, as they should be, for the problem is more complex than some on the Right would acknowledge. It’s no longer as simple as abstaining during the teen years and then getting married and settling down to raise a family–for many Americas the jobs aren’t there.
But rather than rehashing the points mentioned in the article I’d like to focus on how it illustrates the limits of the cultural ideal of responsible hedonism. The message that the successful are taught is to have fun, but not to screw up their future. Use contraception, get an abortion if that fails, stay in school, get your degree, get your career settled, and then marry someone else from your income/educational bracket and have one to three kids. And this model works for some people in our society (the middle-upper class). It may be immoral, but it works. Indulgence is tempered by interest in personal advancement.
But this model has little to offer others. For every young woman who’s careful lest her promiscuity interfere with her plans for med school there are a dozen who don’t have such plans to be interfered with–who will never have such plans, because they are not among of the fortunate born with a high IQ. The average person is uninterested in the mores of the upper-middle class’ responsible hedonism because there isn’t much benefit to them from it, or at least it appears that way. There is, of course, a world of difference between working class respectability (something that was prevalent not that long ago in this country) and the permanent dependency of the underclass, but the difference isn’t realized by telling people to follow their dreams of advanced degrees and professional careers. Most people aren’t cut out for that. Community college classes perhaps. Vocational training. But their career dreams will not be ruined by having a baby, in part because they don’t have career dreams. They’d like more money, but they are unlikely to be driven by a particular passion for their work. To the extent that they might have dreams, it would be of a working class respectability. Family, house, tolerable job–the desires of the great mass of mankind. And the fulfillment of these increasingly has nothing to do with marriage.